The 3 Problems with being Spoiled
When I was younger, I really didn’t know how being spoiled was going to hurt me as an adult. Even to this day, I’m a momma’s boy and love to be pampered. I consider this a privilege. I’m not ashamed to say that my parents loved me (and still do), but my mother absolutely spoiled me. And with a big HOWEVER, I found the 3 problems with being spoiled.
After having my own experiences, these are the 3 problems with being spoiled:
- ENTITLEMENT- the expectation of getting what I wanted had no bounds. I have the unfortunate story of stealing my mother’s ATM card and buying sports cards, candy, and other unimportant things. Even though my mother and I can laugh about it now, 26 years prior was not a laughing matter. She had bank papers all over and hours of talk-time on the phone. Her look of puzzlement broke my heart, so I had to tell her the truth. Truth be told, I could have been arrested- but she told the bank to drop the search after I confessed.
- OBLIVIOUS- I was completely clueless to the reality of life. My maturity recognized who and when to show respect with my manners, but I didn’t understand why to respect leaders, authority, elders and systems. Since we all evolve with each generation, things change. I was oblivious with the why. The why is important because it’s more than just you and me. The reality about life is that it doesn’t play fair. Don’t be oblivious to the realities of life, because at the end of the day the best things about life is people/family. And family doesn’t have to be blood. Again, it isn’t all about you.
- UNGRATEFUL- while being raise in a nice 3-bedroom suburb home, I truly didn’t have any concept of what it took for my parents to provide that ‘roof over my head’ on a consistent basis. I had my own room, lots of toys, plenty to wear, never missed a meal, attended great schools, and had tons of liberties with time, friends and going where I wanted. Unfortunately, it was never enough. The word grateful didn’t come to my vocabulary to much later in life.
LESSONs LEARNED– as a father and entrepreneur, nothing is free. Therefore, everything has a price. To be spoiled is a great benefit parents gift their children. There’s nothing wrong with wanting what you want. My problem is I didn’t want to earn it with dignity and respect. Having a ‘spoiled’ mindset gives you an unhealthy perspective.
I was completely oblivious to having good character traits, such as: honesty, good work ethics, integrity, good morals, conviction, hard working, commitment and relentlessness. I’m ashamed to having the above 3 problems. Being spoiled ruined my opportunities of other advancement, travel, and more opportunities- but it wasn’t anyone’s fault but my own.
In other words, I failed to capitalize on potential successes because it wasn’t what I thought, wanted, envisioned, or expected. Don’t be like me. You can be spoiled, but don’t be foolish. Use my mistakes to surpass me. Be wise.
I write this because my business is personal because this service is for the advancement of all humanity. My failures and successes are for your gain. No strings attached.
Nathan A. Webster, MBA
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