After over 10 years of encouraging others to pursue their dreams, I’ve truly come to understand why people don’t dream big. The answer is simple. I’ve been there. Anyone that’s accomplished anything worth having knows the answer. It’s fear.
That’s the answer, but I can also elaborate. Keep reading.
When you truly dream a big enough dream that could keep you up at night, it’s outright scary. The dream isn’t only going to scare you, but also going to scare away the people that don’t see or understand it. As a natural course, the majority will render some non-verbals and advice that isn’t very supportive. This sort of back and forth plays out to be the ‘norm’ of a “dream big” scenario.
I personally had those experiences during my “dream big” scenario, but I didn’t think it was normal. I continued with Dream Big Community Center (my nonprofit organization) to encourage others to pursue their dreams, and it wasn’t what I expected. Instead of delivering passion and excitement via my curriculum, I had to deal with the fear of achieving what could possibly never exist.
As I learned in Physics, gravity is always pushing us down. It’s no different from our dreams. It’ll get pushed down as well. Dreaming big takes continual effort, and one of the biggest obstacles is yourself.
Throughout countless presentations, I realized I needed to write a book that specifically addressed ‘us’ as the key issue. The book is Scared to Be Me. I self-published on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. My goal is to specifically tackle fear, starting with ourselves.
Why people don’t dream big is really beyond me. I do get it’s scary, but not living with a true purpose isn’t fulfilling. How do people live without a dream? That’s an easy answer as well, disappointed. They’re always looking for a satisfier. In other words, one allows life to dictate what should make them happy on settling on what will make them satisfied (not happy or fulfilled).
This isn’t where you go looking to be the next Michael Jordan, Oprah, Ellen, Roger Federer, Lionel Messi, Kim Jong Un, or anyone else for that matter. The REAL reason why people don’t dream big is the fear of truly embracing themselves. Our blueprints are evolving. To have fear of the unknown isn’t how most operate. There’s comfort in predicting from already established data.
Life is the choice of choosing wether you will live a “Dream Big” lifestyle, or “Dream Small.” There’s no in between. You can’t do both. You must choose one.
Which one do you choose?
I write this because my business is personal because this service is for the advancement of all humanity. My failures and successes are for your gain. No strings attached.
Nathan A. Webster, MBA