- August 4, 2015
- Posted by: nathanwebster
- Category: Consulting
Meeting someone for the first time doesn’t start with a repeating track in your mind stating, “I will build a healthy relationship.” We meet and greet strangers all the time. While at work, we take it a tad bit further and complete a task together. You may decide to hang out afterward, but no one is waving their finger at you saying to build a healthy relationship with that person.
I have found that building a healthy relationship is a goal, but not always the focus. Our personality is attracted to certain types and gravitates to some more than others. We already have a built-in radar to seek out individuals with our same like interests, but some people have developed a finer antenna to seek out immediate dangers before a relationship begins.
While some look for the good in people, others look for the bad. Either way, we want to keep the relationships we like and toss the others. Unfortunately, building one isn’t typically the focus unless we have a specific intent.
Building a healthy relationship is all intentional. This is a whole-hearted conscientious decision. I do believe it only comes out of maturity.
The purpose to build a healthy relationship is to yield a reciprocal agreement of mutual respect and love with the other person. Even though it cannot be perfection, we still strive for it to be as close to perfection as possible. In that perfection, a healthy border of important personal needs are intertwined with the other person creating a healthy relationship that evolves until the desire dissipates.
Another way for me to say this is healthy relationships are people you trust, respect and love. They focus on your wants and you focus on theirs. The mutual respect includes:
- Learn to enjoy life for what it is.
- Be grateful for the simple things.
- Having fun.
- Allowing each other to be oneself.
- Being relaxed.
- Sharing experiences together.
- Living life together.
How do you know when to build a healthy relationship?
When you’re ready to share your perspectives with another person, stay selective in your pursuit. In your patience, there will be one after another who want to share the same experiences.
Guard your perfection of interests. Don’t allow others to change it based on their differences. Not everyone is supposed to be intertwined with you.
I write this because my business is personal because this service is for the advancement of all humanity. My failures and successes are for your gain. No strings attached.
Nathan A. Webster, MBA