7 Lovely Logics
by Rebekah Dull
The 7 lovely logics are great for when life becomes unclear. Remember these 7 lovely logics when you want to feel bad for yourself, when you don’t understand, and you need a little encouragement.
1. Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your future.
The past can be a powerful thing, although sometimes we think it’s done and over with. Unsettled issues can arise that occurred in your past and affect the present. This has to do with honesty and straightforwardness. Always be honest and always settle issues when they occur. Never give anyone anything to hold against you.
2. What others think of you is none of your business.
So many people will have so many opinions about you. Try to limit what opinions you listen to and what changes you make from these opinions. There will be people who genuinely want to help you with their opinions and others will just be haters. People have told me how proud they are of me, while others have told me and I quote “I have NEVER been so disappointed with someone in my life.” You will get opinions from both ends of the spectrum. Don’t get a big head with the positive opinions and don’t get depressed with the negative opinions.
3. Time heals everything.
Others may disagree with this, but I believe it’s true. Time heals everything. Just like a cut on your arm, eventually it will heal itself with no treatment. Time allows us to forget and forgive, which leads to healing. If you’re bitter though, time won’t do you much good. It will only make you an angry person. Remember that “healing” doesn’t mean everything is perfect again, it just means that you have come to terms with the issue.
4. No one is the reason of your happiness except yourself.
Learn to be happy by yourself because if you aren’t happy by yourself you will never be happy with anyone else. I always thought that if I had my dad in my life on a regular basis, or if I found a boyfriend, or if my sister came home that I would be happy. That wasn’t the case. One year for Christmas my sister came home and it wasn’t what I thought it would be at all. My family was still broken and I wasn’t any happier. I’m grateful for that because I learned to be happy with myself. The emptiness was created by me and can only be fixed by me.
5. Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is all about.
We look at successful people and say, “Gee, they must have had it easier to get where they are.” I’ve been humbled after I’ve learned the stories of some successful people. After I learn their story and say “God, thank you for giving me my struggles and not anyone else’s.” Just because someone is in a great place now doesn’t mean they’ve always been there. We have all seen peaks and valleys.
6. Stop thinking so much, it’s okay not to know all the answers.
We go through life to learn. If we knew everything as soon as we were born, life wouldn’t be any fun. So yes, it’s okay not to know all the answers. The only one that knows all the answers is our merciful and forgiving God. Besides if you knew all the answers, would you use them wisely? That would be too much responsibility for me! I am good with learning as I go. No one is perfect.
7. Smile, you don’t own all the problems in the world.
While you probably have a lot of problems on your plate, don’t take responsibility for all the other problems in the world. Be responsible for your actions and choices, because that’s all you have control of. That’s the God’s honest reality. Although we want to help others, we can’t carry their problems too. God has given us our struggles to strengthen us on our journey. Do no steal the blessing from another because you want to help them. Allow them to be strengthened by their struggles on their journey. Although you can’t take the struggle on for them that doesn’t mean you can’t stand by them. Be a friend on their journey.
Just because you come from a product of failure, that does NOT make you a failure. You determine that.
Rebekah A. Dull
Scoliosis Surgery Survivor, CEO of My Life, and COO of My Dreams
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