- June 16, 2015
- Posted by: nathanwebster
- Category: Consulting
First and foremost, we all have to start somewhere.
Why People Don’t Dream Big
After over 10 years of encouraging others to pursue their dreams, I’ve truly come to understand why people don’t dream big. The answer is simple in my opinion. Anyone that’s accomplished anything worth having knows the answer as well- it’s fear.
Keep reading for context because fear doesn’t operate alone.
When you truly dream a big enough dream that could keep you up at night, it’s outright scary. The dream isn’t only going to scare you, but also going to scare away the people that don’t see or understand it. As a natural course, the majority will render some non-verbals and advice that isn’t very supportive. This sort of back and forth plays out to be the ‘norm’ of what I call a “dream big” scenario.
I personally had those experiences during multiple “dream big” scenarios, but I didn’t think it was normal. Stay positive, right?
In those moments, I continued with my nonprofit organization Dream Big Community Center (2004-2018) to encourage others to pursue their dreams, and it wasn’t what I expected. Instead of delivering passion and excitement via my curriculum, I had to deal with the fear of achieving what could possibly never exist.
As I learned in Physics, gravity is always pushing us down. It’s no different from our dreams. It’ll get pushed down as well. Dreaming big takes continual effort, and one of the biggest obstacles is yourself.
Be the Solution
Throughout countless presentations, I realized I needed to write a book that specifically addressed ‘us’ as the key issue. The book is Scared to Be Me. I self-published on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. My goal is to specifically tackle fear, starting with ourselves.
Why people don’t dream big is really beyond me. I do get it’s scary, but not living with a true purpose isn’t fulfilling.
How do people live without a dream?
In my opinion, it’s a much larger concept to wrap your mind around. Not everyone is told to live their dreams or be the best person they can be in life. The old adage of ‘just get by’ is their mantra. Also, before social media and the internet boom, it wasn’t always common knowledge of how to be an industry leader, entrepreneur, or to live life on your own terms.
This isn’t where you go looking to be the next Michael Jordan, Oprah, Ellen, Roger Federer, Lionel Messi, Kim Jong Un, or anyone else for that matter. I believe the REAL reason why people don’t dream big is the fear of truly embracing themselves and failing forward.
To have fear of the unknown isn’t how most operate. There’s comfort in predicting from already established data.
Life is the choice of choosing whether you will live a “Dream Big” lifestyle, or “Dream Small.” There’s no in-between. You can’t do both. You must choose one.
Which one do you choose?
Dream Big has become similar to a salutation. A simple “hello” or “goodbye” is almost the same gesture, but saying “Dream Big” forces you to at least think about what a lifestyle consists of when we have no fear. The dream may takeoff some great brainstorming or it could be self-ridiculed. Dreaming big is an act that too many fail to do, and even fewer see it to reality.
The reality of having big dreams can get crushed when the sight of the current obstacles stand in front of you. Obstacles and sacrifices are rarely ever discussed. All the great unnumbered success stories from sports, education, business, and many others are inspiring and heart-warming. However, they all and countless others worked tirelessly into the night (and many overnighters) to become who they were. Not one of them belittled their dream, nor should you.
Don’t little your dream big. Your dream is the key to your happiness. We were all designed to fulfill a unique void in this world. Without your personality, intellect, and know-how, the world will suffer the travesty of not witnessing your contribution.
Your contribution could be specialized in arts, medical, science, technology, sports, or humanities. Don’t little any industry or your craft, because you could be the missing piece to making it popular, hip, smart, savvy, and vintage or whatever you think is derogatory. You could be the Michael Jordan to basketball, Oprah to television, or Jobs or Gates in computers. Whatever you do, don’t little your dream big because of the current obstacles. Seek help, overcome, and celebrate the small victories.
Teamwork makes the Dream Work
It was a while ago, but I heard the saying “teamwork makes the dream work.” I immediately fell in love with it for many reasons. The biggest reason was to gain the understanding your dream cannot be done on your own. I always knew you need a supporting cast, but I was really happy to get it reaffirmed.
After googling to find the author, I discovered Mr. John Maxwell was the creator.
The original quote is, “Teamwork makes the dream work, but a vision becomes a nightmare when the leader has a big dream and a bad team.” Maxwell is known for being an exemplary writer, trainer, and leader. I have a couple of his books. He’s one of many motivational speakers I encourage anyone to follow, so I’m not surprised when I learned the source. Maxwell is all about the team.
For me, Maxwell’s quote hits home with everything I do. Of course, the media and “successful” people don’t show the multitude of people that had a hand in their work, which is fine. However, it isn’t altogether accurate. All great accomplishments require support. I still believe you have to do the hard work while most are having fun, sleeping, or relaxing.
Remember, teamwork makes the dream work all day, every day.
I write this because my business is personal because this service is for the advancement of all humanity. My failures and successes are for your gain. No strings attached.
Nathan A. Webster, MBA
Marketing Consultant & Marketing Professor
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