I remember listening to my very first motivational audio program on my way to work. It was a Jim Rohn sampler edition. The program was given to me because of my personality, and the person who loaned it to me thought I would enjoy it. Initially, I was doing everything I could to avoid listening to him. I felt the experience was going to be a “touchy and feely” talk that would be boring- boy, was I wrong.
Jim Rohn wasn’t the first motivational speaker I’ve heard, but he was the first speaker I elected to listen to. My commute to work was at least 40 minutes, so I said to myself “what the heck… I might as well get this over with.” I wanted to find something to dislike, so I almost used his screechy annoying old man’s voice to stop the disc. But then he said something to the effect of asking the audience, “What’s your value?” He said it in such a way that I felt he was talking to me; and then he continued to say that you have to know your value.
At that moment, I realized no one ever told me or has asked me what I deserved. At that moment, time stood still. I was transfixed on how I was giving away my value for someone else’s gain. That moment when time stood still, I realized I was giving my value away for almost free. I was always replaceable, dispensable, and not unique.
From that point, I was transfixed to every word that he spoke. When I got to work, I didn’t want to get out of my car. The late Jim Rohn had convinced me to stop believing that I was “only a number” and thought about my friends who said that my background was unique and impressive. Unfortunately, I thought they were only being nice.
I wish I could remember the date because my whole world has changed. One of my biggest takeaways was learning that your value starts with you. It doesn’t matter how many people tell you how amazing you are and how valuable you are to them, to the company, or to the group, it won’t matter if you don’t see the value from within.
Lastly, this piece of information is what I learned along the way. Forgive the person(s) who stole this natural birthright from you and move on. Keep the past out of the present, because it will ruin your future. Knowing your value has incredible worth, and people are willing to invest in you.
I write this because my business is personal. My struggles are for your gain. No strings attached.
Nathan A. Webster, MBA